Alexandra Gulbis, LCSW, LICSW, ABS
California-based Virtual Therapist in California, Florida, Minnesota, Nevada, and Vermont specializing in tailored, boutique care for discerning clients seeking depth-oriented work around anxiety, relationships, and life outside the default path
Hello, nice to meet you.
I'm Alexandra. Psychotherapist, writer, amateur motorcycle racer (retired from that particular form of questionable judgment), musician, composer, bone cancer survivor, and lifelong student/participant of the beautifully absurd human condition.
I've lived enough life to know that surviving something doesn't automatically make it meaningful, suffering doesn't always come with a lesson, and resilience is sometimes just a fancy word for having no other choice.
Professionally, I'm a licensed clinical social worker, certified sexologist through the American Board of Sexology, and the author of three books exploring boundaries, identity, emotional complexity, and personal change.
My clinical work draws from existential, humanistic, and transpersonal psychology, narrative therapy, and an anti-coercive philosophy that places personal autonomy at the center of the therapeutic relationship.
I've been practicing clinically since 2016, with advanced training and doctoral-level education in Existential, Humanistic, and Transpersonal Psychology further informing my approach. I made it all the way to the dissertation stage before realizing I'd rather spend my time writing things I actually wanted to say than persuading a committee to approve how I said them.
So I left. Just the realization that sometimes the next chapter requires closing a perfectly respectable one.
I have enormous respect for those who completed their doctorates. I simply decided that particular finish line wasn't mine.
But credentials only tell you so much about a person.
I believe in asking difficult questions, challenging assumptions, finding humor in life's absurdities, and occasionally admitting that few people have any idea what they're doing.
I don't think the purpose of therapy is to make people more compliant, more productive, or better at tolerating circumstances that don't serve them.
I think it's about having more say in the life you're actually living.
Therapy for the driven, the disillusioned, and the ready.
Let’s Get Started
Therapy doesn’t have to be intimidating, and it definitely doesn’t have to be boring. Whether you’re here because you’re at your breaking point, or you’re just curious about what growth could look like, let’s talk.
Take the first step by reaching out today. Your future self will thank you. To get started, hit that Contact button after reviewing my Fees and Policies. It’s time to show up for yourself. And I’ll be right there with you.
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Saybrook University - Doctoral Studies in Existential, Humanistic, and Transpersonal Psychology
University of Southern California - Master of Social Work
University of Florida - Graduate-Level Studies in Public Health and Health Administration
St. Petersburg College - B.A.S. in Health Services Administration
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The Myth of the Diva: Collective Consent, High Standards, and the Psychology of Expectation
Not Your Fantasy: The Parasocial Problem in Everyday Interactions
The Problem with Therapy Mills & Why You Should Care
There’s No Wrong Reason To Go To Therapy
Why Can’t People Just Be Happy For You? (Spoiler: It’s Not About You)
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When I’m not helping people navigate the twists and turns of their inner worlds, I’m out living my own life with a mix of adventure and artistry. My Shiba Inu, Kami, is my partner in crime—equal parts cuddly and cunning, she keeps me on my toes and reminds me that life’s better when you don’t take it too seriously.
Out on the water, you’ll find me yachting, soaking in the stillness of the sea—or the thrill of the waves—because nothing clears my head like the open horizon. When I visit home in my native Florida, I swap the deck for the depths, scuba diving to explore the vibrant underwater world that feels like its own form of meditation.
Music is another big part of my world. I love composing, recording, and getting lost in the magic of sound production. There’s something incredible about turning a raw idea into something tangible, emotional, and uniquely yours. I periodically release original compositions on Apple Music, Spotify, and other streaming services.
Fashion is another form of self-expression—it’s not just about clothes, it’s about creating a mood, telling a story, and feeling amazing while doing it. And then there’s my love for motorcycles. Few things compare to the rush of freedom I feel carving through a winding road on two wheels. Whether it’s chasing inspiration, speed, or the thrill of being alive, I’m always finding new ways to keep life dynamic and unapologetically mine.